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Syngin
11-14-2004, 02:17 AM
I was tempted to just put g/f but maybe there are a few Linux females among us, not sure.
How does everyone balance the 2? Stories? Insite? Its getting to the point that my g/f think me spending my time on the computer is a lesser form of cheating hehe Granted that over the last 4 months I average around 11 hours/day (freelancing from home) but still.....
Icarus
11-14-2004, 02:35 AM
My wife had a rough time with it for a while, but now accepts that it's what I do. She reads books and helps kids learn, I work on computers and help others with them.
It takes time but if the other understands that it is 'your thing' they will be able to handle it. If they can't then I'd say they have relationship problems they need to work out :)
infiniphunk
11-14-2004, 03:55 AM
My spouse also spends a fair amount of time online herself; she also has forums she participates in and rarely complains about me spending time online. She has Ubuntu on her laptop and likes it quite a lot as she can do everything she knew how to do when it had XP on it(except now it seems there are less complaints about "wierd stuff" happening!)
Although we are both very busy students and work part-time jobs, we still spend quality time together; only rarely has she ever complained about me and my desktop....oh, the odd time she is trying to sleep in the next room and she can hear me typing; then I'm in trouble!
gehidore
11-14-2004, 04:25 AM
Originally posted by Icarus
My wife had a rough time with it for a while, but now accepts that it's what I do. She reads books and helps kids learn, I work on computers and help others with them.
It takes time but if the other understands that it is 'your thing' they will be able to handle it. If they can't then I'd say they have relationship problems they need to work out :)
My gf has yet to 'feel ok' with me using computers for a major part of the day, but I let her play ET/Ut2k4 and now all she wants to know is: "when are you going to play? I want to play, can we play together?"
I was happy that she may be 'ok' with me and computers ( I hope )
Now to get her in deeper than games :p
EnigmaOne
11-14-2004, 04:57 AM
My wife and I, both being somewhat the computer addicts, met over the Internet in 1993 and subsequently married.
Her private terminal is right next to mine...just to my right, actually, and we spend quite a bit of time together in more ways than research and goofing-off.
We do take time away from the monitors for walks and playing with the children, etc. Quite a bit of time, as a matter of fact.
When we are at the monitors, it's usually with us trading screens--back and forth--to share findings with each other. Deep discussions usually ensue, and move into the kitchen--oftentimes with the clock rolling-over to 02:00 (am) with us talking together.
We do the same thing over the LA Times, Scientific American, JAMA, whatever; so it's not really a matter of the technology--it's just another of our ways of interacting intellectually with each other.
We will both tell you that we're a bit weird, very happy, and much more in love with each other today than we were 10 years ago.
See ya later...we're headed for the kitchen again. :)
BaVinic
11-14-2004, 01:51 PM
for me it is easy, i just tell the beach to shut up and leave me alone. (just kidding)
it is easy to see where problems can arise with your mate if you spend too much time in front of the monitors, the trick is to spend more time with them, doing something you enjoy together, if you just ignore them, before you know it, they will be gone. and you will be sitting in your chat room crying virtual tears to everyone.
Most of the time when I am working on my computers, my wife is ether at work, or sleeping. or in some cases, teaching hebrew. but when she is "free" we spend our time doing things like remodling our kitchen, planning our sons graduation, and make plans for our winter vacation. even with all that, I still have plenty of time for my work in linux.
You have to balance everything out, it is not always easy, but it is the best way to do it.
BaVinic
soulestream
11-14-2004, 06:15 PM
two words
"linux mahjong"
my wife loves it. she also has her own laptop with winblows on it she uses.
Hellion
11-14-2004, 10:09 PM
Mine spends just as much time if not more on the comp than I do...So theres rarely a problem :D
irlandes
11-15-2004, 12:32 AM
...that my computer is like me having another woman. I stare into her eyes for hours, and stroke her body with tenderness....
It has been this way since 1978 when I bought a programmable HP pocket calculator, I think it was an HP-25. I called it Julie. My wife is really used to it after 26 years of me looking into a machine. The hardest program I ever wrote was on that machine. It had 49 program steps available, and it took me over a week of spare time to eliminate one step for a math riddle program.
She might be more uptight, but she is Mexican, and she is often reminded by her family and friends, that I might be out with a real woman.
Ehwaz001
11-15-2004, 06:03 PM
...that my computer is like me having another woman. I stare into her eyes for hours, and stroke her body with tenderness....
Stroke her body with tenderness :confused:
Man, you need therapy, badly! :eek:
BaVinic
11-15-2004, 06:14 PM
Originally posted by irlandes
She might be more uptight, but she is Mexican, and she is often reminded by her family and friends, that I might be out with a real woman.
maybe it is just me, but shouldn't you have put some kind of smiley face after that statement or a [j/k] or something to show you were joking? I mean I hope you don't really feel that way?
Mexican women are real women, as are all women, except russian women, they are real men. (I was just joking)
Bavinic
my g/f is my best friend....only recently have i realized that what you do in life is not so much important as whom you get to spend it with.