OK I figured it out

[dbc]

i used "grep -i pidfile /etc/httpd/conf/httpd.conf" to get the name of the file that stores the parent process pid

then "cat /var/run/httpd.pid" to get the actual pid

then "kill -HUP 959"

[dbc]

This was supposed to be a reply to my other topic so moderators feel fre to move this or something